Resources to Cope with Grief

Stronger together! Each one of us has our own definition to what strong means. Regardless of how you define it, we are stronger together. Now more than ever FLEOA stands with you, United States Capitol Police and other agencies impacted by the booming sounds of negativity. Each law enforcement officer goes to work, knowing he/she raised their hand with pride to serve their county. It leaves a significant void when you do your best yet are chastised. This e-blast intends to give you some immediate resources to reach in, find your strength, so you can reach out. It really is ok not to be ok right now. We are here for you.

A line-of-duty death (LODD) slams home the risk and vulnerability of all law enforcement officers. It can be psychologically devastating. Keep in mind, it is normal to feel the several stages of the grief reaction to a fellow officer’s LODD.

Shock and disbelief are often the first reactions. Officers may feel numbed, disoriented and try to push through the day at work while trying to grapple with the enormity of what has just happened. As time passes, even after the funeral, many surviving officers continue to experience a feeling of profound sadness.

Officers may experience a sense of overwhelming fatigue and feeling exhausted. Appetite and sleep may be affected and there may be dreams of the slain officer. This is usually an expectable part of the grief process. Sadness may be tinged with anger, which may be directed at several shifting targets. Some of this anger may be stoked by survivor guilt, especially where the LODD incident involved a number of officers on the scene.

Let these resources help you process:

Feel free to reach out to whichever FLEOA Chaplain you feel comfortable with. They are here for you.

National Protestant Chaplain: Rev. David S. Lothrop (845) 358 6421/


National Jewish Chaplain: Rabbi Niles Goldstein. (917) 670-8214/


National Catholic Chaplain: Father Joseph D'Angelo. (516) 672-3944/


Additionally, FLEOA is working closely with the Treatment Placement Specialist/ArcadiaHealth, who are available for you and your family.Bill Mazur,, 609-515-4111and Joe Collins,, 920-973-7310, both retired LEO’s, will talk/text/email with you and get you connected to a provider who is vetted and who is familiar with the LEO culture.

The following resources are also here for you - peer support/No shame-No judgement: You can text "HOME”or "BLUE” to 741741 to connect with a counselor; call 1-866-Cop2cop; call blue line support 855-964-2583; call the National Suicide hotline 800-273-TALK (8255); The National Disaster Distress Helpline is available to anyone experiencing emotional distress related to COVID-19 - call 1-800-985-5990 or text TalkWithUs to 66746 to speak to a caring counselor. Please use these resources, sometimes a mere connection will pull you outofa funk.


Stay safe all.




Dr. Jean Kanokogi, PhD

Director of Mental Health & Peer Support Services

Federal Law Enforcement Officers Association